Normal? What's that? That word seems to have deserted my life for the last couple of years. My husband and I could sure stand a little boredom instead of all the excitement and chaos that keeps occurring.
Got my mom settled back in her home town last June and finally signed the papers to sell her house the end of February this year. Just about the time we thought we'd get a bit of a breather, things went south again.
On Valentines Day, my husband drove through white out conditions to pick up my FIL at the hospital where his girlfriend was a patient. My FIL's behavior had made him no longer welcome there. A drive that should have taken no more than 90 minutes round trip took 3 hours. I was very worried. Hubby told me the roads were horrendous and there were lots of slide offs. It was a white knuckle drive. Not long after he arrived home they put out a blizzard warning and told everyone to stay off the roads. We got a lot of snow that day.
Shortly after that my FIL moved back to his own home after living with his girlfriend for the past 6-7 years. He just turned 92 and is not a happy camper about being separated from her. His girlfriend is in the end stage of congestive heart failure and is now living with her daughter.
Within 2 weeks of being home my FIL was in the emergency room twice. Shortly after that came the day a visiting nurse checked on him and he greeted her with "I took a bunch of pills with alcohol to kill myself." She rushed him to the ER. He had an infection but was not successful in his suicide attempt. This landed him on suicide watch at the hospital and a visit to the local mental health center for evaluation when he was well enough to be released from the hospital. He was at the mental health facility for a week before they finished evaluating him. He said it was like being in the army again. My FIL doesn't understand why they are concerned that a 92-year-old would want to commit suicide. This is the kind of stuff that makes you want to tear you hair out when you hear it. He is supposed to be seeing a counselor. Not sure it's happened yet as the doctor keeps cancelling his appointments. He's also supposed to be on antidepressants and stop drinking. I don't think either of those have happened. You can not make a stubborn old man do something he does not want to do.
My husband, his two brothers, and we three SILs have tried our best to make him comfortable, see to his needs, and keep him out of trouble. He wants none of it. He is only interested in getting back with his girlfriend which he thinks about constantly. Like a dog with a bone, he keeps chewing trying to find the best way to achieve his end goal. I strongly suspect the suicide attempt was as much a bid for her attention and sympathy as anything else.
My FIL used to be a loving, kind, man who was very family oriented. Every holiday, family event, birthday, anniversary, etc. we celebrated together. (I also got the whole how important family lecture is from him before I married his son.) Then my MIL died. A year passed before he reconnected with a woman he knew growing up. My FIL turned his back on his sons, our families, and all of his close friends who had helped him through his wife's passing. He no longer had time for any of them. It's a very sad and frustrating situation for all of us. We do what we can for him but more times than not we are greeted with verbal abuse.
On top of this, one of hubby's close, long-time, male friends is fighting a terminal cancer diagnosis. He has been in and out of the hospital a lot and he has refused to give up. We are praying for a miracle.
And as if hubby didn't need anything else to worry about, I've been down with an upper respiratory virus for the past week. It is one nasty bug that's making the rounds in our area and it doesn't want to go away easily. (I'm hoping hubby doesn't get it. I am worried as he has been coughing and complaining of a headache that goes along with this bug.) I'm looking forward to feeling like myself again. Haven't touched a crochet hook, knitting needles, or much of anything else I've felt so bad. Hubby didn't help when he came home last night with news I didn't want to hear -- two people at work told him they had this and it took 2 to 2-1/2 weeks to get over it. Yikes!
Friday, March 6
It Be Winter is a thick and cozy hood designed to keep you warm even on the coldest days. Knit flat in garter stitch on size 11 (8 mm) needles with bulky weight yarn (140 yards) or doubled worsted weight yarn, it knits up fast. There are no seams. Cast on and work the front first. Then work a few short rows at the center and begin to join the back to the front. Finish with a little skirt at the back to cover the neck and tuck inside your coat. Add a button and loop under the chin or ties for a secure closing.
Measures 17” from top to bottom x 8” deep laid flat on the side.
You can change the size of the hood by choosing a lighter weight yarn and needles recommended by the yarn label.
I will be knitting more of these to wear next winter. :-) I'm hoping we don't need heavy winter gear for much longer this year.
The three page pattern includes written instructions only.
Buy the pattern through my Ravelry pattern store for $3.00.
Have fun knitting!
Monday, February 16
Heartsong is a fun heart-shaped shawl that is a companion piece to my Heartsong Scarf. It is knit from the top down in garter stitch that ends in a simple lace border. Knit in a heavy worsted weight yarn on size 8 knitting needles it is a fast knit. Looks stunning in a yarn with a long color run.
You’ll need 300-330 yards of heavy worsted weight yarn for a shawl that measures 41” neckline x 13” deep and blocked to 59” x 18”.
The 3 page pattern sells for $4.00 in my Ravelry pattern store.
Blue Daisies is a lace mobius cowl constructed in the round using a daisy filet crochet motif. This cowl may be worn around the neck, over the head, or around the shoulders.
You’ll need 360 yards of worsted weight yarn and a size I (5.5 mm) crochet hook (or 200 yards for a shorter cowl).
I used Red Heart Shimmer in Royal for the cowl pictured above. Finished size is 41” around x 16” deep.
A photo tutorial is included in the pattern that shows you step-by-step how to create and work the mobius twist.
The size of the cowl is easily adjustable by changing the number of repeats you work. Can be made in any weight of yarn by changing the hook to suit the yarn and adjusting the foundation chain.
The 4 page pattern has written instructions, a mobius tutorial, and a crochet chart. It sells for $3.00 in my Ravelry pattern store.
Some of you may recognize the heart filet pattern used in this bag. I used it for a baby blanket and a scarf last year. But it kept telling me it wanted to be a tote bag. I started it and put it aside for awhile as I couldn’t figure out the handle. Picked it up again last month, everything clicked into place, and I finished it up. Love how it turned out!
This Heart Tote is worked in the round from the bottom up with filet crochet heart panels. The handle is made in Tunisian crochet and it rolls to form a tubular shoulder strap. It's attached as you work the handle so no seaming!
I lined mine bag but you don’t have to. I made the lining a little wider and longer so the bag could stretch a bit.
You’ll need 300 yards of worsted weight yarn and a size H (5 mm) crochet hook for this project. Finished size of bag is 14” tall x 14” wide. I made mine with Hobby Lobby I Love This Cotton in apple green.
The four page pattern includes written instructions, a crochet chart, and a tutorial showing how to make stronger stitch joins. Available now from my Ravelry pattern store for $3.00.
Tuesday, January 27
Heartsong is a fast knit, heart shaped scarf that is knit from the top down. You'll need size 8 (5 mm) knitting needles and 147 yards of Aran/heavy worsted weight yarn for the project. A solid color, long color run, or a variegated yarn will all work well for this scarf.
The sample picture above was knit with Lion Brand Amazing in the Pink Sands colorway. Finished size is 26" neckline x 9" deep. I blocked it to bring out the points. After blocking it measured 28.5" x 10.25". (I'm working on releasing a shawl sized version of this design.)
Here it is in the Aurora colorway.
The Acadia colorway
And Strawberry Fields
Here's how it looks on my dress form. You can wear the point in back or front.
The two page pattern sells for $3.00 in my Ravelry pattern store. Click the link in the sidebar to go to my pattern store. Enjoy!
Grab 200 yards of bulky or super bulky weight yarn that can be knit with size 13 (9 mm) knitting needles and cast on for this scarf. It works up very fast into a cuddly, bulky scarf that can be worn in many ways. Increases and decreases shape the scarf.
The pictured scarf was knit in garter stitch using 2 skeins of Loops & Threads Charisma in the northern lights colorway. Finished size is 56” long x 7” wide.
The two page pattern is being introduced at the reduced price of $2.00.
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